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The Harrogate charity pioneer looking for one last jobFinancial woes force Harrogate café to close

A café set up to reduce food waste, loneliness and food poverty in Harrogate has been forced to close due to financial pressures.

Resurrected Bites’ Give As You Can café has been held at St Paul’s United Reformed Church in Harrogate on Wednesdays, but low footfall and high costs have made it unviable.

Michelle Hayes, director and founder of Resurrected Bites, told the Stray Ferret:

“We’re making such a loss that we’re getting to the point where we can’t cover staff wages. We can’t sustain it.”

Resurrected Bites also runs a community groceries scheme with bases in Harrogate and Knaresborough for people in food poverty, as well as two other cafés, at Gracious Street Methodist Church in Knaresborough on Fridays and at Killinghall Methodist Church on Thursdays, which she said are still doing well.

Resurrected Bites’ expenditure for the first three months of this financial year varied between £15,000 and £17,000 per month, resulting in a shortfall of £8,000 to £10,000 to be made up from grants or fundraising.

To help stabilise the organisation, Ms Hayes has split it, with the Resurrected Bites charity as the main fundraising body covering the community groceries and environmental aspects of preventing food waste. As a charity, any donations are eligible for Gift Aid, boosting them by 25%.

But the cafés are not eligible for charitable status because there are no restrictions on who may provide custom.

Ms Hayes said:

“Charitable status would restrict us to only serving people who are lonely or in food poverty. We feel that our existing model of focusing on the environmental aspects of food waste enables us to support people who are in food poverty or are lonely without stigmatising them.

“Legally, the charity cannot support the shortfall in finances for the community interest company, and so we have to ensure the cafés raise enough revenue to cover their costs.

“That’s why we had to make the very difficult decision to close the Harrogate café whilst we consider how we can generate more income to cover its costs.

“We’re hoping that it’s temporary. We may be able to find a new venue with a bigger space so that we can get more people through, and attract a wider range of customers who can pay more.

“Once we get through this rough patch, I think we’ll be alright.”

Photo: The Killinghall Methodist Church cafe run by Resurrected Bites remains open.

New Harrogate group aims to combat loneliness in working mums

Problems of loneliness and isolation are often associated with older people.

But one social enterprise in Harrogate says the issue is just as likely to affect young mothers – and it is trying to put an end to the problem.

MyLifePool set up the Working Mums Network several years ago, but it stopped meeting during the covid pandemic.

Now, the group is being re-established to offer dinners, nights out, and events with speakers and social time, to enable like-minded mums to form stronger bonds.

Founder Vic Smith-Dunn said:

“Many working mums struggle with feeling disconnected from their peers and their community and motherhood is a significant trigger for loneliness. At myLifePool we understand that being a working mum can be an isolating experience, especially during these challenging times.

“That’s why we created a community where mums can connect, share experiences, and have fun together.”

One local mum recently posted on Facebook saying how lonely she was, prompting a flurry of responses offering support – including Vic.

She said she has been putting together new events over the last few weeks to combat loneliness and support people through rising fuel costs. They include the Warm Wednesdays social sessions, as well as a Lego club for primary school children and their parents.

While opportunities for families to get together during the day are popular, Vic said working parents often miss out and can be lonely even when they are busy.

She said:

“We often think that it’s retired people living alone who are in danger of becoming socially isolated, but new parents and working parents are just as vulnerable.

“It’s like the old saying goes, it’s possible to be lonely in a crowded room.

“This kind of thing is everything I’m so passionate about: people just need the opportunity and a gentle introduction to widen their social circle, which makes the world of difference to people’s mental health and, in turn, their physical health.”

The Working Mums Network will meet at Oatlands Community Centre next Wednesday, March 8, from 7pm to 9pm.

It will run in partnership with Parent Smart Learning, offering life hacks to help working parents to save time and make home life easier. A short presentation will be followed by time for socialising.

Tickets are free to myLifePool members, or £4 for non-members, who can get a month’s free trial to attend the event. To book a place, click here.

New men’s group to tackle isolation in Nidderdale

A new group is being set up in Nidderdale to help tackle isolation and loneliness in rural areas.

Hosted by Nidderdale Plus Community Hub in Pateley Bridge, it will offer men of all ages the chance to socialise and have fun.

It is being coordinated by Kirsty Dawson from Nidderdale Plus and Dave Rowson, befriending coordinator for the Harrogate district branch of mental health charity Mind. He told the Stray Ferret:

“There was some funding available for warm spaces initiatives, so we were speaking to community offices around the area about what they thought would be of interest.

“Nidderdale Plus said there are lots of little groups and things that are fairly female-orientated in the dale, but they felt they were not getting traction with the local men, who might be lonely and isolated and looking for things to do.”

The group will initially meet every fortnight, on a Tuesday morning. As it develops, it will set its own schedule and decide what the members want to do each time.

Suggestions put forward so far include board games, films, learning first aid and basic DIY, studying local history and practising photography. Visitors to the first session at the end of February also expressed an interest in trips out, such as to pub quizzes, museums, steam railways and sports events.

The group will initially meet at the Nidderdale Plus office

While attending the group is free, Mr Rowson said he recognised some people might not be ready to join it yet, but could be looking for other support.

The befriending service through Mind offers one-to-one chances for people to reconnect with others and build their confidence, which could lead them on to joining groups like the one in Pateley Bridge.

Mr Rowson said he hoped an informal social group might be an easy way for people to increase their network of friends and boost their mental health. He said he was speaking to local farming groups to build links with their members, raising awareness of the new group and what Mind can offer more broadly.

If there was enough interest, an afternoon or evening group could also be organised for people who worked during the day.

He added:

“That’s where I think some of the connections need to come from in the rural communities, to bring some of the men suffering with mental health or isolation. They aren’t in the elderly bracket, they’re just struggling and need some introductions.

“The motivation to get them there seems to be finding something that might spark their interest. Once they’re there, they end up talking about all sorts of things.”

The next session of the men’s group will be on Tuesday, March 7 from 10.15am until noon. To book a free place, email Nidderdale Plus or Dave Rowson.

Bilton community centre to offer free meals as cost of living hits hard

A new group has been set up in Harrogate to help people hit hard by the rising cost of living.

Harrogate Free Meals is offering nutritious two-course meals at Bilton Community Centre on Thursday this week.

The organisation, which is backed by Presence Church, will provide free meals to anyone who turns up. It has promised a relaxed environment and a ‘no questions asked’ policy.

The initiative will continue until the middle of July, with the aim of taking some of the pressure off for those struggling amid the cost of living crisis.

Three free meal events are planned in June and two are planned in July.

Organiser David Vaux said:

“We see rising fuel/food bills as a significant issue along with loneliness in Harrogate, so it’s a way of trying to help both of these. It’s important to start local when it comes to global issues.

“No person should go to bed hungry, and people should be able to have friends and be a part of a community.”

Mr Vaux added the evening is not just for people struggling financially, but for anyone feeling lonely post-lockdown who may want to meet people from the local area.

The meals will range from curry, bolognese and soup, and they are also hoping to provide a vegetarian option.

Mr Vaux asks that anyone with an allergy should get in contact beforehand at david@free-meal.co.uk so they can cater for this.

The centre will be open from 7-8pm.

Salvation Army brings a ray of hope across the Harrogate district

Despite the cancellation of its traditional lunch in Ripon, The Salvation Army has given gifts and festive treats to those in need across the Harrogate district.

On Christmas Day 2019, the Salvation Army Hall on Lead Lane was a hive of activity, as volunteers cooked and served three-course meals for dozens of people.

The lunch, held annually for almost two decades, will not take place today. As in 2020, it has fallen victim to coronavirus.

For the usual attendees, who are lonely, short of money or have health issues, the cancellation will come as a disappointment.

But behind the scenes, the spirit of Christmas has continued.

Although unable to invite guests for lunch, The Salvation Army has reached out to hundreds of men, women and children across the Harrogate district.

Photo of the Salvation Army Hall

Donated gifts and festive treats (some of which are pictured above) were gathered through its annual appeal, from individuals, retailers and other businesses.

They have now been given to more than 150 families facing difficult circumstances.

Pat Clark and Alison Hewitt – members of the church leadership team at Lead Lane – have witnessed the growing need across the district, as an increasing number of people have struggled to make ends meet.

Both believe that a combination of factors, including the increased cost of gas and electricity, the end of the furlough scheme, rising food prices and changes to Universal Credit, have added to a worsening situation for many.

Pat, told the Stray Ferret:

“Because of the semi-rural area that we live in, wages are traditionally low for a large number of people and those on a tight budget have no room for manoeuvre.

“This can lead to them getting trapped in a level of debt that they can’t handle and they don’t know where to turn.

“We are here to listen and help in a confidential and non-judgemental way.”

Alison, added:

“This year we have seen a lot more families who have been finding it hard and Christmas puts them under even greater financial pressure.

“We hope that the gift packs that we are able to give them through the appeal have helped to ease their burden.”

The packs include four gifts, a book and a selection box for children and there are also presents for adults.

In addition, each family receives a bag of festive food goodies.

The names of recipients, which remain confidential, are provided by agencies that act as a link between those in need and The Salvation Army.

It is not as yet known if the Christmas Day lunch will be able to return next year, but the annual appeal will continue to provide a lifeline for families in the festive season.

Ripon Men’s Shed opens door to new friendships

Ripon Men’s Shed opened its doors this week, bringing an enormous collaborative effort to fruition.

Following a June 2019 meeting at Community House in Allhallowgate to gauge interest in the project, the charity’s trustees – Andrew Makey, Caroline Bentham, Ed Moore and Tony Johnson – made great strides, in spite of the intervening limitations brought by covid.

The Men’s Shed movement, which addresses issues of loneliness and social isolation, has a specific focus on the older male population, but women are welcome too.

Photo of woodworking at Ripon Men's Shed

Getting to know the drill – Catherine Limbert joins in woodworking activities with fellow members

There are also Sheds in Harrogate, Starbeck and Pateley Bridge, offering weekly activities ranging from joinery to the restoration of bicycles.

Mr Makey, who is responsible for publicity for Ripon Men’s Shed, told the Stray Ferret:

“Our initial focus is on woodworking, but there are opportunities to look at other areas as well, such as computers.

“The activities, which the members will decide upon themselves, provide a focus and we hope that through their attendance, they will get to know each other and enjoy the social interaction.”

For John Hayson, a retired master plumber living in Boroughbridge, the Men’s Shed will be something to look forward to.

He said:

“I’ve been in hospital recently and after I was discharged, I was bedridden for a few weeks.

“That left me feeling hopeless, particularly as I have a disabled wife that I am caring for.

“I heard about the men’s shed and thought that attending it would be a way of rebuilding my confidence and making friends, by being with like-minded people for a few hours a week, while my wife is looked after by some lovely neighbours we have.”

Catherine Limbert is currently the only female member, but is not phased by being in an all-male environment.

Catherine Limbert — looking forward to learning new skills and making friends at the Men’s Shed

The NHS nurse said:

“I’m happy to speak with anybody and to learn from the expertise they have in areas that I’ve never tried before, such as using an electric drill.

“I have a couple of free days a week and this is a great way of getting out of the house, learning DIY skills and meeting new people.”

While the social aspect of the shed is good for members, it is also beneficial for the people involved in delivering the sessions.

The Ripon Men’s Shed premises, to the rear of the New Life Church in Water Skellgate

Barry Sutton, who was formerly secretary of Selkirk Community Shed, has brought the knowledge he gained in Scotland back to his native country.

The retired forester and now community volunteer, said:

“I believe it’s important for people to stay as active as possible, use their skills and have a sense of purpose.

“Being involved in an organisation like this is a win-win situation for all involved.”

With a chair lift provided from monies secured by Ripon’s North Yorkshire county councillors Stuart Martin and Mike Chambers, the Tuesday sessions between 10am and 4pm are being made as accessible as possible.

Anybody wishing to become a member, or get involved in other ways, such as making a donation or providing practical assistance with provision of tools that can be used in woodworking sessions, can find out more on the Ripon Men’s Shed Facebook page.

WATCH: Men’s Shed mental health group opens in Pateley Bridge

The Nidderdale and Pateley Bridge Men’s Shed has opened to provide friendship and support to the local community.

They are part of a wider organisation of ‘sheds’ which began in Australia. Their goal is to create a space for people to come together to create and build while making friends and overcoming loneliness.

Despite their name, organiser Alan Cottrill assured the Stray Ferret that the group is also open to women who want to clear their mind through DIY.

“We’re making and repairing things – but also making friendships.”

“There’s been lots of research over the last couple of years which show that this is a good way to get men to talk. Women talk face to face but men talk shoulder to shoulder.”

The Men’s Shed have the premises behind St Cuthbert’s for three years and aim to start working with other charities next year.

Men painting building

Pupils send festive greetings to Ripon’s elderly

Ripon Grammar School is bringing festive cheer to elderly residents in the city’s care homes.

Hundreds of pupils from Year 7 and Year 8 are aiming to spread joy and laughter by creating hand-made cards and sharing poems, drawings, jokes, riddles and stories about their festive celebrations.

Arnav Kasireddy, 12, from Ripon, said he would be thinking of the elderly when he opened his Christmas presents:

“They may not be able to see family and may be lonely. I hope my letter brings someone some happiness.”

Head of Year 7, Arwen Hoskins, said the pupils had been inspired by The TES Classroom to Care Home campaign.

The campaign urges schools to send messages to local care homes, in the hope that this will forge connections not just for Christmas but beyond.

Photo of Annabelle Crossland's Christmas card

Twelve-year-old Annabelle Crossland, from Ripon, whose Christmas card is pictured above said:

“It’s important they feel loved and happy and that someone will reach out and be a good friend to them.”

Ethan Kendrick, also 12, from Ripon, added:

“It’s a good thing to do because Christmas will be a lonely time for many elderly people.”

Teacher Miss Hoskins said:

“Given the restrictions we have faced this year, we are aware many residents in care homes have had very few visits from friends and family members and may be feeling lonely.

“We hope that by writing letters to residents in our local care homes, we can spread a little Christmas joy and cheer by letting them know that our school community cares for them and is thinking about them at this difficult time.”

Pupils will be writing to residents in care homes including Borrage House, Caxton Lodge and the Moors Care Centre

Lesley Carter of the charity Age UK welcomed the initiative:

“Older people have really missed the visits from young people. Every older person would be able to recognise something that has been made by a child and it will bring back memories. Seeing lots of happy festive cheer from their local community will also give staff in care homes a boost.”

Ripon pie company lends its weight to food charity

Yorkshire Handmade Pies, a company based on the outskirts of Ripon, has formed a partnership to support the charity FoodCycle.

The environmentally-focused charity runs community projects across the country serving meals made from surplus food which would otherwise have gone to waste.

Fresh, raw ingredients donated by local supermarkets and food outlets are collected by FoodCycle volunteers who then use the surplus food to cook three-course meals.

Prior to the covid-19 pandemic, the meals were produced to help address issues of loneliness for people living in food poverty, by creating spaces for them to meet and have a meal together.

Since the coronavirus crisis, FoodCycle, which has produced more that 270,000 meals since its formation ten years ago, has diversified to provide take-aways still helping to improve nutrition and reducing hunger by cooking healthy meals for those in need.

Now,Yorkshire Handmade Pies is adding its weight to the charity’s efforts. For every box of pies purchased, Yorkshire Handmade Pies will donate 30p of the sale price to FoodCycle to help them to expand their work in local communities and fund more projects in more regions.

FoodCycle also aims to change attitudes to food by cooking with surplus ingredients, spreading their passion for food and the environment, which Yorkshire Handmade Pies fully supports too.

Its pies are delivered frozen because frozen food generates 47% less wastage than chilled food.

Company founder James Sturdy said:

“We wanted to support a charity which aligns with our ethos around food wastage, environmental responsibilities and wellbeing beliefs.

“FoodCycle supports a wide variety of people from low-income families, people affected by homelessness to those experiencing physical and mental health problems. They exist to ensure communities have access to healthy food and they need our support now, more than ever.”

Yorkshire Handmade Pies, which has premises in Melmerby, is a member of the Living Wage Foundation and the Good Business Charter – a voluntary accreditation scheme which recognises responsible business practices.

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